I believe that he handled his grief in a good way, because he was think about the little things that his brother did that made him a good person. Like how Allie got good grades and how all his teachers would tell his parents how amazing he was. Or how he remembered his red hair.
" People with red hair are supposed to get mad very easily, but Allie never did, and he had very red hair. I'll tell you what kind of red hair he had...I was around twelve, teeing off and all, and having a hunch that if I turned around all of a sudden, I'd see Allie. So I did, and sure enough, he was sitting on his bike outside outside the fence-there was this fence that went all around the course- and he was sitting there, about a hundred and fifty yards behind me, watching me tee off. That's the kind of red hair he had."
Just by reading that you can tell that he remembers every little memory he had of his brother. Especially the memories of his baseball glove. How he was left-handed, so he had a left-handed glove and he wrote poems all over it with green pen so that when he was out and no one was up to bat he could read something so he wouldn't get bored. Like, that is so cute! And it is even cuter that Holden remembers that!
I can relate to Holden because when I was little I lost my best friend, and I grieved for about 3 months. His name was Lorren and he also happened to be my Great Papa. In about 2003, he was too weak to live on his own so my family and I had to put him in a "Senior Home." I was against the whole idea from the beginning. I didn't want him to be in some crumby old folks home all alone. So I tried to visit him as much as I could. However one week I went to go visit him and he was fine. We had ice cream and we sat in the park and watched the geese fly on and off the lake and then after our day was over he went back to his "home," and I went back to mine. And I was unfortunately informed about two weeks later that he had pasted away. I cried for weeks and excluded myself from everyone for months. After a few months I started socializing again and I could come to the fact that my best friend past away. When I think about it today, of course I get a little worked up, but I also think about all the good times we had together. I went through my time of grieving, and still in a way I think I am still grieving but just in a different way. Yeah, I miss my Papa, but he is in a better place now. :)

I had the same feelings that you did when Holden talked about Allie. I felt so bad for him and was surprised by how different he sounded when he talked about Allie. I think that he became more of himself. His words seem to come much easier to him and it seemed like he could go on forever talking about the people he loves. I think that deep down Holden is very sensitive and sentimental but he puts on a front that he isnt. One thing I disagree with is the way he is dealing with his grief. I think that he isn't doing very good with dealing with it. He is letting his life fall apart, hopefully he will realize soon what he is doing and shape up.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your loss, your grandpa sounded like a great man. I can completely relate to this post, I was like a bawling mess after reading chapter five myself. After reading this and realizing that he had lost someone too, it really made it feel like Holden was an old friend, don't ya think? It made me just want to hug him or something. He's handling his grief extremely well. I think that as long as you keep remembering them, and the good things about them, then you're keeping their memory alive.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear about your papa. I can relate to you. I lost my grandma last summer. I was a mess, but it does help to think that they are in a better place :) I also agree with you with the whole Holden thing. While I was reading chapter 5, I saw him as a completely different person. He seemed caring for once. I also heard a different voice while Holden was talking :) To me? He seemed normal for once
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